There comes a time in life where you began to realize what used to work, simply doesn’t. Whether it’s a certain way of coping, to your choice of entertainment. Not all so called “habits” have to be an identification of your character.
I agree, being a part of this generation can be intimidating. Everyone follows each other. Social media, friends, and Youtubers all influence our presented identity in some way, shape or form. But sooner or later, you will have a moment of self-reflection and it’ll hit you like a truck. “Do I want to do this to fit in?” Am I buying these clothes to hop on the wave?” Am I even happy with who I am?” These questions hold the most valuable answers. Once these answers are confirmed by yourself, the magic happens if you allow it.
A few years back, I decided to test the waters and give marijuana a try. I knew this was wrong because one, I was young. Two, it was something I was doing behind my parents back, and three, it’s illegal. That first try turned into multiple tries until I found myself being high more than I was sober. It is so common and yes, everyone does it for different reasons. I became fond of being in a different state of mind, but over time its effect became useless. I wanted better for myself. It was time for me to move on.
The detox was not an overnight thing. In the process of releasing old habits, you may feel like it latches on to you as you attempt to move forward. Imagine as if you are pulling a weight, you can’t move as fast as if you had no weight at all. But if you pull that same weight every single day, it becomes easier and easier. Same aspect, different concept. You have to believe you are stronger than what you are wanting to move past. You are stronger than the voices of society who are restraining you from growing. You are stronger than the little voice on your shoulder telling you that your habit defines you.
Letting something go with the intention to improve is always the right thing to do. It is okay to move on. Don’t be hard on yourself if you give in to it. Familiarity is comforting, and because of that, it requires the transition to be extended and not rapid. But don’t use that as an excuse to remain in your transition forever. Whatever you decide to let go, will always creep on you in the future. When you are at the point to where you are no longer phased by your “leech,” give yourself a pat on the back and stomp that thing in the ground.
One thing that helped me the most was having people who encouraged me to overcome what I struggled to hold on to. These people spoke life into me, pulled me up when I fell and walked through the journey with me. Due to their commitment, I began to believe in myself because they believed in me first.
Do yourself a favor and save yourself from regret and wasted time.
- Find people who you trust to never give up on you during hard times and will accept you for who you are.
- Constantly remind yourself that all things take time.
- Give yourself grace when you backtrack.
- Be stronger than everything that is holding you in one place when you are ready to move on to another.