Admiring others is a beautiful expression of love. It brings people together and creates a community of good spirits, but envying others does the exact opposite. It creates a sense of competition and self doubt. A fine line lies between both concepts, which is why it is important to recognize which one we are acting upon.
It all begins with comparing ourselves to others. Dwelling on the fact that they have something we don’t. Money, clothes, talents, looks, friends, a certain home life. In our eyes, we see these aspects of their lives close to perfection, but perfection is an illusion. There is no such thing as perfect. Even if some day you are able to have all the things that would complete a perfect life, you will still find yourself unsatisfied. Instead of comparing, enhancing ourselves seems to be a healthier alternative. There is beauty that rests in our hearts and minds. Sharpening what we already have for the greater good can lead to an experience of self satisfaction. Admire what you were naturally given. Your smile, your sense of humor, your passion, the opportunity to better ourselves overall is all that we need to be a reflection of an authentic being.
Now, admiring someone for a trait or an object that compliments them is a different story. The admiration should lead to encouragement, but if it takes the wrong turn and leads to envy, we both know that isn’t a healthy emotion to carry with us.
This world is a world of competition. The goal is to make you feel bad about yourself for not having or doing what society is portraying. Don’t fall into the trap. You are uniquely equipped with everything you need to make it in life. Everything else is just for show. Just as you see it in the movies, what is shown to you is what they want you to see. What you don’t know about these people who you think have it easy, are going through it one way or another. Even if they are loaded with all the materialistic items in the world, they are struggling in life just like you and I because they’re human, and that’s how every human has it.
You don’t have to be that person. The one to show off the best parts of you and to hide your grey areas, even if society is pulling on your ear. Try a different approach. Instead, see what it’s like to be open about your struggles and see how many people can relate to you. Then, watch how many people are going to be inspired by your vulnerability and will use that to transform the lives of others who may be struggling with the same thing. Change for the greater good is a crazy thing to witness, but the fulfillment you will take in is the best part about it.
I believe in you, and once you open your mind a bit more and realize that being human is okay, that you don’t have to be picture perfect all the time, and that others aren’t what they make out to be, life will be completely different for you. Allow envy to conform into admiration, pride into vulnerability, and secret struggles to become shared experiences.